Fri, Nov

Twenty Years Ago

Now this is a picture…


This picture was taken on the afternoon of Sunday, November 26, 1995. Erin and I had met, face to face, for the first time just two days previous. We had arranged to meet in Chicago, as a halfway point between Kitchener, where I lived, and Minneapolis, where Erin lived. We had hoped to meet up in the great hall at Chicago’s Union Station, but I couldn’t spy her, and she couldn’t spy me, so my friend Martin and I went down a level to the information desk and asked the attendant to page her.

I remember seeing her coming to the glass door, wearing a long coat, and we had a connection of recognition right there. We’d seen each other’s pictures, of course, but it was still a thrill to finally meet up in the flesh, as it were, to know that the pictures were true, and that this was real.

I described how I met Erin online and how our relationship developed in the summer of 1995 as Erin coped with a possible cancer diagnosis. We had fallen in love after having met on the Internet, in 1995, a time when only serial killers met up online. Our relationship was shocking enough that we were interviewed by the Kitchener-Waterloo Record a couple of years later, after we’d moved into our first apartment. Our pictures graced the front page of the Lifestyles section, with a beige computer between us symbolizing this bold new way for people to connect.

But we had met in Chicago as it was neutral ground. As impulsively as we might have been acting, we were moving cautiously. We’d built our relationship over a year of e-mails, like pen pals used to do in Victorian times. In Chicago, we attended a Doctor Who convention, to give us something to do for the weekend if we didn’t click.

But we clicked. The photographic evidence is above.

It is amazing how fast twenty years can pass.


justin-trudeau-cbc.jpgI'm hearing a lot of people rag on the fact that Justin Trudeau has acknowledged that his plan to settle 25,000 Syrian refugees by year's end is too ambitious, and that number will be reached by February instead. He's getting a surprising amount of heat for it, with some calling it "his first broken promise", with the clear implication that they expect it to be the first of many.

Cynically speaking, there's probably nothing false about that statement. Show me a politician that didn't break a single promise, and I'll show you a politician that did not run on a discernable platform.

I admit I am disappointed that we won't be able to help 25,000 people by the end of the year. I'll also admit that, three weeks ago, I looked at the calendar and wondered if Trudeau's commitment was achievable. But people with axes to grind jumped all over that worry, blowing security concerns out of proportion, in some cases denegrating desperate and innocent people, and building a narrative that Trudeau was attempting the impossible. Now that it has been acknowledged that the December 31st deadline is indeed impossible, it seems a little disingenuous for some to keep ragging on him for admitting what they thought to be obvious, unless people are starved for saying "I told you so, nyah!" to a Liberal government.

And it ignores the bigger human picture: that we will still settle 25,000 people within the next three months. That's not nothing. Sure, Trudeau may have been overly ambitious, but by God, at least he tried to do the right thing. And, at least he is still trying to do the right thing, albeit giving himself eight extra weeks to do it. As broken promises go, it's worlds apart from, say, signing a pledge to not raise taxes, and then imposing health care premiums instead, or promising not to tax income trusts and then doing precisely that.

Moreover, I think Trudeau's ambitious schedule created a sense of urgency that will ultimately help Canada better handle the settlement of 25,000 Syrian refugees. Community groups, charities, church groups, are all gearing up to work. The issue is dominating the news, and making people -- my own family included -- search through their storage bins for old clothes, spare diapers, anything that can help.

Trudeau helped bring that out in Canadians. That sense was not at the fore before the October 19 election. I think the country is the better for it, and broken promise or not, I'll give him credit for it.


Is it just me, or is Waterloo Region a hotbed of vanity plates? I seem to encounter a lot of them just a few miles from my home. Some good ones too…

Sat, Nov

Health... o-holics?


Because being addicted to health is healthy, so it must be okay, right? Right?

In the wake of the terrorist attacks in Paris, I’ve seen an unfortunate rise in fearful responses on my Facebook and Twitter feeds. It’s one thing to hear fear and loathing from such places as Fox News, but to hear average people parrot similar anti-Islamic tropes as a result of the actions by Daesh (I’m weening myself from calling this group ISIS), is saddening. It’s a reaction of ignorance, and one that plays right into the terrorists’ hands. After all, they want to eliminate the “grey zone” of coexistence between average Muslims and average everybody else. Judging all Muslims by the actions of the few lunatics that act in the name of Islam is exactly what Daesh wants.

A trope that I’ve heard on more than one occasion is “why aren’t Muslims in the Middle East condeming Daesh? Or Al Queda? Or every terrorist act done by someone who claims to be Islamic, anywhere? I’ve seen it on my Facebook feed, and a Toronto couple even put it up on a whiteboard for all to see.

There are a few answers to this question. We can ask why we don’t require all Christians to apologize for the actions of the Westboro Baptist Church, for instance, or those racists that have pushed a Muslim woman into a speeding train in the London Underground, or the assholes who attacked a Muslim woman picking up her children from a Toronto school. It’s not fair or right to do it when the tables are turned, so why do we hold individual Muslims to a higher standard than we hold ourselves?

But a more pertinent question to ask in response to “why aren’t Muslims protesting Daesh” is, “how do you know you haven’t been listening?” Twice, now, I’ve been able to post “Here they are! See?” If I can come up with this in under five minutes searching Google, how hard are these people really looking? Are they looking, or are they just speaking from their biases and their ignorance?

Never mind the fact that we kind of take the ability to protest publicly for granted in Canada, the United States and western Europe. History has shown that protesting on the streets of Iran or Egypt carries considerably more risk. That’s no excuse to blame the average Muslim for shouting too quietly, however.

True, the media does seem to give limited coverage to the average Muslim outraged by the actions of radicals being taken in his or her name. The reason for this, I suspect, is because most journalists are storytellers, and most of us tend to view the world in the framework of stories. You’ve heard the phrase “there are two sides to every story”? Well the reality is, at a conservative estimate, there’s more like seventeen.

Have a look at how the media tends to frame any story that takes the Christian religion into account. Whether it’s same sex marriage, or sex education in schools, the talking heads tend to fall into two groups: right wing religious, and left wing secular. How often do you hear about liberal Christians in the news? In the United States, which party’s candidates get more focus for their Christian fervour? When Al Gore said he constantly asked himself “what would Jesus do?”, did that really mark him as a Christian in most people’s eyes? People tend to focus on his other political attributes.

Liberal Christians have had a had time getting attention, explaining that their faith informs their actions in favour of their politics as much as certain right-wing Christians. Some of us even point out how it can be argued that some on the right aren’t living up to the teachings of Jesus in their attack on workers’ rights, or in their turning away of refugees. And we get very frustrated when people ask, “where are the liberal Christians? Why aren’t they speaking up?” We have been. It’s just been hard to get to the microphone. And I think the media doesn’t like handing over the microphone because the presence of other voices complicates the story, makes it harder to understand and to tell, and thus robs the media corporations of eyeballs as viewers turn away.

It’s ironic that, as Daesh tries to strip away “the grey zone” and present the world as black and white, we ourselves are already halfway there, because there is so much shade and colour that we do not see, largely because the media doesn’t tell us about it, and we do not look for it. That needs to change.

And step one is not to automatically assume that a person is what you fear rather than what you hope will be. Acknowledging that the Syrian refugees are running from the same enemies that attacked Paris and giving these victims shelter cuts off Daesh’s plan at its root.

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